I keep asking myself this many times over...and I still cannot find an explanation that would give me a little peace of mind. You go into a relationship with high or no expectations...you tell yourself nothing is forever so, enjoy it while you can...and then...boom...something happens and you realize you've let yourself in for a ride that is bound to get you hurt.
You keep telling yourself you are not the first, or the last person to go through such a thing...hell it is not even the first time when it happens to you...but somehow all this doesn't help...on the contrary, it makes you feel so powerless, so utterly lonely and out of touch with everything else around you.
Relationships are such a tricky thing. One moment you feel in control over your own feelings, and especially over your partner's feelings...the next...you realize there is no such thing as control...everything is volatile and ironically, somehow the roles have turned...you're drifting away, in an unending void...
You go about your petty life, every day, the same routine and worries...you forget to pay attention to the person next to you. I mean you see him/her, chit-chat and take care that a warm dish is on the table for dinner ... but you don't actually acknowledge their presence. you don't connect to that deeper level that was the key to your relationship in the first place. ironically, you know is wrong, but you have so many problems at work and in your life, your relationship can wait a little longer to get sorted out.
And when everything is too late, when you killed every hope there was to be happy with your partner...you wake up, like from a bad dream, you realize you've been sleep-walking for the past few years and you want your love back. You want a second chance of making it right so bad, it makes you scream in pain.
It hurts like hell and you just pray that the love is still there...but again, there is nothing you can do, but to hope and pray.
The word "control" should not exist in the dictionary. It is a mean, ugly word, a word that likes being abused. it makes you feel something you actually... really ...obviously...aren't.
You keep telling yourself you are not the first, or the last person to go through such a thing...hell it is not even the first time when it happens to you...but somehow all this doesn't help...on the contrary, it makes you feel so powerless, so utterly lonely and out of touch with everything else around you.
Relationships are such a tricky thing. One moment you feel in control over your own feelings, and especially over your partner's feelings...the next...you realize there is no such thing as control...everything is volatile and ironically, somehow the roles have turned...you're drifting away, in an unending void...
You go about your petty life, every day, the same routine and worries...you forget to pay attention to the person next to you. I mean you see him/her, chit-chat and take care that a warm dish is on the table for dinner ... but you don't actually acknowledge their presence. you don't connect to that deeper level that was the key to your relationship in the first place. ironically, you know is wrong, but you have so many problems at work and in your life, your relationship can wait a little longer to get sorted out.
And when everything is too late, when you killed every hope there was to be happy with your partner...you wake up, like from a bad dream, you realize you've been sleep-walking for the past few years and you want your love back. You want a second chance of making it right so bad, it makes you scream in pain.
It hurts like hell and you just pray that the love is still there...but again, there is nothing you can do, but to hope and pray.
The word "control" should not exist in the dictionary. It is a mean, ugly word, a word that likes being abused. it makes you feel something you actually... really ...obviously...aren't.
Guess falling out of love happens to everyone many times a in their lifetime. As you rightly said, you cannot control feelings of love or the happiness of your partner..Neither can anyone control yours. It's wrong, and all it brings is pain and regret.
RăspundețiȘtergereEverything in life is a learning curve and that's why we get "wiser" with age. :P
PROBABLY love is included somehow in this category as well...although I'm not quite sure. When you find REAL love...YOU'll know it. The World and time as we know it stops. It brings happiness and it hurts when you're away from that person .It makes act like a sick dog and you lose interest in anything else. I believe that LOVE goes away when the persons involved aren't really made for each other, many reasons leading to this.
Always being yourself and true to that person is the answer. Until we have the courage to say "I am who I am and I'm proud of who I am" we don't stand a chance in finding true happiness and fulfillment. We’re just wondering …
Don’t worry much, and let things happen how they’re supposed to. You will be loved. Be Happy
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There is always a danger in this...that just as much leads to regrets and pain...but then...it may be too late to change anything.
RăspundețiȘtergereThat danger appears when you're mistaking a loss of communication with falling out of love.
in this life nothing is 100% sure and nothing will be. sometimes people in love lose touch with their inner selves and their partners. we don't leave in a happy, perfect bubble, where we feel our partner's thoughts and feelings with the highest intensity ALWAYS.
unfortunately, this is the real world, where everybody has problems and thoughts that affect their reasoning and make them act cold or with less interest towards their partners.
yes, there are situations when two people have to see these setbacks, communicate and try to bring the spark back. love is not only the pain you feel when the other is away, love is also the need to protect and keep away from harm, love is being there when the other needs you the most, love is knowing you are loved.
looking back to how it all started can be the answer to the problem. just try to look into each other's eyes and remember what attracted you to him/her in the first place.
rediscover that feeling and tell it out loud. communication is the key. if you feel like you're losing something, talk to your partner and together you will find the key to your happiness.
because giving up and leaving is painful and so many times uncalled for. it may seem at times the easy way out. And sometimes, many times, you realize when it's too late that you rushed into getting out of something good, just because you felt it legging for a while.
everything in life is a learning curve...well said...everything in life has good parts and bad parts...what if everybody would just up and run away when the hard stuff comes in? sticking around and making it work...that's the hard part.
in love like in anything else, there are many trials and pains that sometimes you have to go through...but this is not a reason to quit, this is how it gets stronger, how it grows into something deeper than the butterflies you feel in the first few months. butterflies are good, but there has to be more. real love only comes after the feelings of infatuation go...real love is also knowing the other's bad parts and being ok with this. real love is talking about anything and knowing that it helps you grow together.
unless the relationship is abusive...there is nothing in this world that cannot be fixed.i strongly believe that love only dies when you give up on it and walk away. and as for all the hardships...LOVE only waits for you to rediscover it, to remember why you felt it for that person in the first place, to be ready and accept its ups and downs and try to work it out TOGETHER. all you need for this is the willingness to re-bond...the willingness to acknowledge that both of you are humans with good and bad and that the love ride...can be sometimes a bumpy one...but if you make it ... the reward will be so much greater than just running away, and looking for the next one.